Why do we tell ourselves we have to look pretty.

what makes us obligated to be all put together and flawless in order to be appreciated?

I find myself apologizing for not having my makeup done or saying i look rough if i havenr spent time prettying my face for people but why?

Why cant we just be seen as beautiful the way we are. accepted whether our skin looks flawless our eyebags are there or not.

We have all these society standards shoved onto us and no matter what we are never enough for someone.

You could be one ideal perfectuon but tuen the page and theirs a whole different one that you havw to measure up to .

Woth these standards loving ourselved becomes harder and harder everyday. Before i was a mom I felt so much more comfortable with myself. The dark bags didnt sit as deep and the wrinkles were of the few i had freckles from the sun at the coast and i weighed a good 20 pounds less and though i wouldnt trade my baby for the world I miss the comfort I had .

Which had me thinking about the why I / we need to rethink the way we measure and ckmpare our selves. No one is perfect and i know we here that all the time but its true. And the ones who look it have put millions of dollars of work or photoshop into their body..

This preconceived notion of societal perfection is utter bullshit it id what keeps the beauty market and crash diet market so fucking profitable.

They prey on thede stupid insecurities that they themselves have enforced on us our whole lives and now young children are falling into it wearing makeup daily and worrying aboutbthwir waist size at 8 or 9.

Ladies. We need to be better. Stronger. Smarter.

if not for ourselves for the younger generation watching us. Thwy watch our ebery move they learn their insecurities by seeing us tear ourselves down everyday , they learn that skin has to be perfect and butts have to be perfectly round and stomachs flat and smooth or else they arent worthy of love.

We need to teach and believe in the truth. Our skin is worthy, wrinkled, broke out, and dark curcles and all, Our bodies are lovable , stretch marks extra skin, weight gain and all. There are such beautiful things in ourselves that we miss tjem all by lookijg at these miniscule things we think are wrong instead, that we taught were not beautiful and undesired and its completely untrue.

Ive started to take photos of mysekf when i feel the most unbeautiful. Than i take a momebt to truly look at it and see that thesr things dont make me any less beautiful than if i had a full face of makeup or had perfect skin and no imperfections at all. My worth and beauty dkesnt come from society it comes from myself from the people around me who love me.

it definitely doesnt come from society and their bullshit or people who think that their judgement ofnyou should factor in tl your own opinion of yourself and thise people and can society can fuck off.

So i hope that when you look in the mirror today, and see these "imperfections " you take a momentnto realize how imoerfect they really aren't.