“You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you cannot have both.”
— Brené Brown

This quote? It hits like a b&tch slap if you know what I mean. the kind of thing when said outloud makes your head reel back?
Because honestly: most of us are still living for someone else’s comfort.

Choosing courage means doing something radical—especially as women. It means unlearning the quiet, the nice, the agreeable. It means stepping out of the roles we were handed—mother, good girl, obedient wife, manageable woman—and stepping into truth. Desire. Power. Pleasure.

And that choice isn’t easy.

Courage Means Leaving the “complacent you” Behind

Since childhood, we've been taught to meet expectations. Be polite. Be pretty. Be safe.
Don’t speak too loud. Don’t take up too much space. Don’t want too much.

So when a woman walks into The Boudoir Studio?
When she lets herself be seen—raw, powerful, sensual—it’s not just a photo session.

It’s a reclamation.

A rejection of who the world told her to be.
A bold yes to who she really is. Complacency + blind obediance is gone.

Comfort Will Try to Keep You Small

Comfort is seductive. It’s easy. Familiar.

But comfort also says:

“Don’t wear that.”
“Don’t ask for more.”
“Don’t make them uncomfortable with your truth.”

Comfort often looks like:

Keeping quiet to avoid conflict.
Shrinking your desires to stay “nice.”
Staying invisible because visibility feels risky.

But here's the truth Brené teaches us:
Comfort comes at a cost.

It costs your growth.
It costs your intimacy.
It costs your sensuality, your voice, your freedom.

The Studio Is the Practice Ground for Courage

Every boudoir photography or erotica photography session at The Boudoir Studio is an act of chosen courage.

When you say yes to the shoot, when you step in front of the camera, when you let yourself be seen—not in a curated, filtered way, but in your raw, naked, delicious truth—you are practicing courage.

You are telling shame it no longer owns you.

You’re telling stereotypes they no longer define you.

And you’re telling the younger version of you—the one who always wondered if she was too much—that she was never too much.
She was just too real for a world obsessed with fake.

Ask Yourself:

What expectations am I still trying to meet that don’t belong to me?
Where am I choosing comfort—and calling it “safety”?
What would it look like to choose courage instead?

Making It Real: How to Start Living Courage Over Comfort

This is bigger than a photo session (but that’s one hell of a start).
Here’s how to bring this practice into your everyday life:

Speak the unspoken. Say what you really feel. Even if your voice trembles.
Dress for your power, not their approval. Put on what makes you feel electric.
Challenge your inner critic. Every time it says “too much,” ask: Says who?
Unfollow shame. Literally. Clean out your social feed. Fill it with bodies and voices that reflect your truth.
Let someone see the real you. The messy, beautiful, unfiltered you. That’s where connection lives.

Final Truth:

Courage doesn’t always roar.
Sometimes, it’s quiet.

It looks like showing up.
It looks like softness.
It looks like pressing “book session” even when you’re nervous.
It looks like choosing your own damn freedom.

And baby?
Freedom looks good on you.