Let’s talk about something real:
A lot of us want more intimacy.
We crave it.
But initiating it? Whole other beast.

If you’ve ever sat there thinking how do I get this started without feeling awkward or rejected or weird?—you’re in good company.
Most people struggle with this. Especially when life is lifing, stress is high, and you’re running on fumes instead of flirtation.

So here are 5 solid, no-bullshit ways to ease into intimacy that feel authentic, connected, and hot without being forced.

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1. Direct Communication

Let’s stop pretending our partners can read our damn minds.
You want it? Say it.
You miss being touched, kissed, devoured? Open your mouth and ask.

“Close mouths don’t get fed.”
Yes. That applies to sex too.

We’ve been conditioned to wait for someone else to make the move, but healthy desire is expressed—not hinted at behind passive sighs.
Speak up. Ask for what you want. Boldly.

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2. Physical Touch

Sometimes the sexiest conversations start with zero words.
A kiss on the neck while they’re doing dishes.
A hand sliding across their thigh.
Fingertips down the back.
Slow. Intentional. Curious.

Touch doesn’t have to lead to sex—but it can start the journey.
Use your hands, your lips, your energy. Show your interest before you explain it.

3. Set the Mood

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Sex doesn’t start in the sheets—it starts in the space around you.
It’s the vibe. The energy. The attention to detail.

Light a candle.
Clean the damn room.
Draw them a bath.
Make their favorite meal.
Do the dishes without being asked (hot AF, honestly).

Sensuality lives in the senses. Engage them all. Set the tone and let the moment unfold.

4. Connect Emotionally

Here’s the truth:
Emotional connection is a major turn-on.
Feeling seen? Feeling heard? Feeling safe? That’s foreplay.

Put your phone down.
Look them in the eyes.
Ask a question that makes them pause.
Tell them what you love about them.
Say the thing you’ve been scared to say.

Let intimacy lead the way, and the sexy stuff becomes the natural next step.

“Everything is sex.”
And she’s right.

5. Play

Yup—flirt. Tease. Joke. Laugh.
Start a tickle fight.
Crack a dirty joke.
Challenge them to a wrestling match that turns into a make-out session on the carpet.

Playful energy disarms tension.
It reminds us that intimacy isn’t a job—it’s joy.
Tap into your inner flirt and stop taking it so seriously.

How I Help You Go Deeper (Literally & Emotionally)

This is what I do.

I help couples and individuals reconnect—to their body, their desire, and each other.

As a certified sexologist, I guide you through the blocks and beliefs that are keeping you stuck in your head and out of your body.

As an erotica photographer, I don’t just take pictures. I create an entire experience of embodiment, intimacy, and permission to feel sexy and fully alive—without shame.

We work on communication.
We explore desire.
We photograph the raw, the wild, the sacred, and the sensual.

Because your love life isn’t broken.
Your libido isn’t missing.
You just need the space to come back home to yourself—and I know how to get you there.

Whether it's through a tantric coaching session, an intimate photo experience, or guided sexual exploration work, we’ll dive into the real stuff together.

And we’ll make it hot.
We’ll make it healing.
We’ll make it yours.

🖤
—Brii Cher'ri
Certified Sexologist | Intimacy Educator | Erotica Photographer
The Boudoir Studio