Providing a Judgement & Shame free & Intimate Erotica Experience for our clients
The boudoir Studio covers our view on erotica photography, this has been published in the AfterDark Magazine & wed love for you to take a peek at this amazing article we wrote up!
Is your erotica truly judgment-free
I think this is the question I get asked the most often, it's because people want to know that they are in a safe, non-judgmental, confidential, and open space and the environment when they come in for these kinds of sessions.
Most people who I talk to who think that they are ready to become an erotic photographer and offer erotica and be a part of it are just thinking about mainstream. They picture one guy, one girl, and normal sex quote on a quote right. But as a sexologist and an erotica photographer, this is the biggest problem. With this mindset you are going to create more trauma and inflict more shame around people's sex confidence if this is the kind of erotica that you're thinking that you're going to be part of, Honestly it’s because that's not real, I mean it is for like 5% of cases right but for most couples, in most people, we aren't the standardized ‘ normal’ that you are thinking about photographing when you start erotica.
Most people have some sort of kink they have something that really intrigues them and sexually gets them going. That really is their desire in their drive and what really gets her rocks off and if you aren't accepting of that and able to create an experience that isn't judgment-free to that kink or to that desire then you shouldn't be in this kind of work. Because like the boudoir, erotica should be and is for everyone. There are only a few things that I do not allow in my studio and that's not for judgment purposes, it's for safety purposes. Of course, no knife play, no blood, no breath play and I don't allow suspension but that's all safety measures if that's what gets her rocks off that's awesome but for safety, I can't allow it. We create other ways of capturing that and creating those moments here without actually doing them obviously not suspension that can't happen but we use the kink to create the kind of vision that they want without judgment and with being safe. I get so many phone calls from clients who were like oh well this photographer said they shot Veronica but they weren't open to this or they said they shot erotica but they won't shoot gay people or they said they shoot erotica but they don't allow multiple people, can’t do “ age play” these are all sexual judgments off of your society standards that are literally just bullshit as we've been proving for years.
As I just ended an erotica session where a couple came in, a girl and a guy, which is not always what it is in my studio. Believe me I shoot everyone and pretty much anything. Well today we just ended with a female Domme and a male submissive and the beautiful acts of their power play. The moments of her dressing, of her wearing a harness and them being intimate together and her having this connection with him where he fully trusts her to be able to safely perform this act with him and also completely trust the space that I've created and the environment to be completely judged-free and to be able to you know laugh at the jokes that I make and play along and be completely comfortable doing all of these things while being naked and pegged.
If the idea of someone being pegged or someone being tied up or someone being with someone of the same sex or being with multiple people at the same time or being super into fisting or stretching or wax play or maybe they have an ddlg kink or a role-play kink there are so many different things that someone can be into. I don't even know all of them but if you were going to be in this line of work the biggest thing that we cannot do is shame those things we have to create this spacious open non-judgmental environment for people to be able to ultimately be themselves and create art of it without biases. Only then can you truly be successful at this line of work because you'll see the beauty in every kind of sexual experience and every kind of interaction that's intimate, Of course, there are rules but my main three is that every experience falls under being safe sane and consensual those are really the only things that matter to me in my studio those are the only things that we use to determine whether it's allowed or not. Are you being safe? Are you in the right State of mind, drug and alcohol-free, and mentally stable? And most of all is it consensual between all parties? And those parties include you as a photographer, add to the contract if desired, My rule is if it's not in the contract it doesn't happen. Does your contract cover and go over all of the acts happening? If not, call the session that the contract is our line of consent. and if you have an assistant there as well they need to understand what is about to happen, what the boundaries are, and what all of that is. This is why it's super important to know your clients and get to know them and know what they want to occur during their experience.
If you find that you cannot provide this judgment-free safe environment for clients I don't think erotica's for you but also if you get an inquiry that says a kink or a situation or a desire that may triggering you or makes you feel uncomfortable enough to not even be comfortable with an assistant there be honest be open and just refer them to someone who could capture that and do not shame does not say oh well we don't do that because blah blah blah I don't care why you don't do it you do not have the right to shame their desires ever and you don't need to explain yourself a simple I am sorry that is something I do not photograph here is enough. Remember SAFE, SANE, CONSENSUAL.& Also ALWAYS JUDGEMENT & SHAME FREE.
