I’m not even going to lie, this topic is uncomfortable for me. For the longest time I have been my largest critic. I’m not skinny enough, tall enough, kind enough.... you get the picture. I tear myself down. A lot. At least I use too. The beginning of this year I decided I was going to start doing some affirmations. Tell myself daily something GOOD about myself. How weird though right? I have to force myself to talk myself up.... pretty pathetic. So I thought. Who does that? Was I crazy? Was it even going to help? I finally figured It damn sure couldn’t hurt. So then I started. I got a multi subject spiral bound notebook and some colorful sharpies because after all this is suppose to be an uplifting thing, something fun a cathartic. I found quotes on Pinterest and rewrote them, colored letters in and doodled. It was a start. This ensued for a few days. But I didn’t feel anything beneficial. So I started to think about what EXACTLY is self love? How do you get it? Then i debated Don’t you already love yourself? Sad answer was no. I loved parts about myself, and that was not good enough for me. What this all comes down to is, I wrote down things about myself that I didn’t like, or things that I wish I could improve. Then I decided we’re these things that I wasn’t happy with? Or what the world was telling me I shouldn’t be happy with? And I have started there... I’m very new into my journey. I’ve picked up a few books to read, ones that are empowering and beneficial for heart soul and mind... I tell myself one thing I like about me inside and out everyday. I listen to one of my favorite songs first thing in the morning and dance without any inhibitions. The thing is I’m learning what self love is, and how to love myself. Three weeks in and I have been told “you look so happy”. Not that I’m beautiful, not that I’m having a good hair day, not complimenting my outfit, but the fact that I look happy and my soul is saying the same. I’ll take that over beauty any day. I hope to continue to blog as my journey progresses because it’s a learning curve. There is no right or wrong way to do this, but I’m off to a good start. If I can offer any advice to get you started figure out what you like about yourself, and really focus on it. Decide on something small to tell yourself everyday. It’s corny I know but you won’t believe what saying these things out loud to yourself can do for your soul.

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