Busting your excuses : The boudoir Studio North Carolina boudoir photographer
When we get nervous, we make excuses.
WE make excused not to love ourselves or take care of ourselves or do ANYTHING for ourselves. Sometimes life is just busy, we are too crazy at work, at home with the kids, or always have to drive someone SOMEWHERE. Sometimes it's more important to spend time with our spouse. Or do things with our children. We also use excuses like "I wanna lose 15 lbs first!" and "I just don't have the money right now!". I wanted to write this blog for you to show you all that no matter the excuse, or excuses you come up with in your head, you CAN do it!
Let me show you that no matter the excuse, you are worthy of self-love & of this experience!
It's also important to remember that if you aren't taking care of yourself mentally, you're not going to be able to handle taking care of everyone else, which makes sense but is actually much harder to comprehend because as always easier said than done! right? Sometimes I am the WORST at making sure I am giving myself mental health breaks and ME breaks and that's why I think it's important to share this with you beautiful and amazing individuals. I won’t front I definitely make the same excuses as i’ve just said and sometimes I need someone to look me in the face and say,
"SLOW DOWN, give yourself a break, breath for a minute & focus on you!"
At a boudoir shoot, during this whole entire experience, you are able to breathe and love yourself, focus on you, remember who you are and how incredible you are. Here at the boudoir studio that isn’t just for a few hours while we take some pretty photos, its all the time before your sesh during our calls together and your self love assignments and tasks we have for you. Our experience is about YOU and you remembering how important YOU are to the people around you and to yourself.
Think of all the energy you'll save on a daily basis if you stop comparing yourself to others, or stop worrying about what other people will think of how you look, and fianlly you see yourself the way your loved ones see you and the way you should truly see yourself. As strong amazing and incredible. You get to see where your beauty really comes from and this lifts such a huge mental weight.
You need to take time for yourself, why not spend it having an amazing time and getting glammed up for once? Spend a night once a week doing a self love assignment, don’t have a night do it with your morning coffee! There is not an excuse in the world that should stop you from CHOOSING YOU once in a freaking while babe.
"I'm not where I want to be weight wise/I don't fit in the media's idea of a good enough size or body shape"
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of American females? ONLY FIVE PERCENT. Also who told you that was what was DESIRED by everyone ? and then who the fuck said you should care what anyone else thinks about the amazing body that is a shell to your incredible soul.
I will say this over and over again (and sorry, not sorry if you've heard me say it before) but WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit a stranger's messed-up idea of a perfect body to LOVE your own body? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no 2 women are the same!
I think it's amazing to have goals and want to do things for you. but does that mean you have to hate your body to do things? Absolutely NOT! You should love yourself every step of the way. be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you're going. Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now, and then have one when you lose that 15 lbs if you want but you should love yourself every step of the way because you are worthy because of who you are not what your body is in this moment.
"I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me"
WRONG!
This excuse is actually the EXACT reason you SHOULD do a boudoir shoot.
Often times we lose touch with our femininity or sexuality when life gets crazy because of health/kids/work. It happens a lot and it is absolutely normal and okay! As a sex coach I see this so often and I love to help my clients get it back and I mean it when I say an amazing way find the side of ourselves again is to have a boudoir shoot done to put that spark back in us. I can show you that you have that inside you somewhere, and might even ignite a kindling spark between you and your spouse as well!
Another thing to remember is that you don't HAVE to wear super sexy clothing/lingerie. If you feel like this doesn't show your personality, then there are so many other outfit ideas. If you need ideas, I will gladly talk to you about them or you can check out our blog on finding outfits here! We have an amazing client closet full of everything you can think of to make you feel sexy and comfortable during your boudoir session!
"A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don't have all the money right now."
Yes, a boudoir shoot IS an investment. It is also an investment in yourself. You are investing in your well-being and confidence as well! We do offer payment plans and have an incredibly low minimum investment for boudoir. Of course in order to book your shoot, there is a booking retainer, and after that, we can set up your payment plan for the remaining so that it might be easier to book a shoot! If you have any questions about payment plans, shoot us an email while setting up your shoot!
